Tons of Swears
Sure, sure, we live in a modern age where there’s no such thing as unladylike language. The woman you’re picking up is just as likely to say “douche bag” as you are, so why should you have to change? Because life’s not always fair. Lots of women who report swearing “very often” themselves still list this as a turn off in a guy. You don’t have to nix every curse, though. Don’t worry about dropping the occasional F-bomb. If you save them up, swears add to your argument when you really want to emphasis something. If you’re using multiple swears in a sentence, that’s the kind of thing you want to practice cutting out before you hit the town.
Your mom didn’t like it when she was on the phone, and a woman isn’t going to like it when she’s telling you a very long story about a coworker. Sometimes you have something funny to say and it’s hard to hold it in. Try to think about something else. Even when you’re hilarious, you’re hurting your chances. Women are always talking about wanting a good listener. If you’re constantly breaking in with funny remarks, it’s going to seem like you only care about talking, not listening.
Any sort of verbal filler has got to go. Men don’t really like it when women add “so, like” to the middle of every sentence. Using a lot of verbal fillers like “but, um” and “uhhhh” to your sentences just makes you sound dim. Women actually respond better to pauses in conversation than they do to fillers. Take the time to work out what you’re going to say before you say it, and you’ll seem thoughtful and deliberate instead of slow.
If you’re making noise with your mouth any time other than saying words, it’s not going over well. Humming along to the thumping bar music might seem innocent, but it’s the little bit of noise that gets on women’s nerves. Be the strong silent type with emphasis on the silent. Humming or whistling just makes you seem distracted and not interested in her. This is also a nervous thing. If you’re humming because you’re nervous, you’re sending the exact opposite signals that you mean to.
Basically, the four tips can be summarized as “cut the background noise.” No humming, no filler sounds, and no using curses like filler sounds. Keep these tips in mind and you’d be surprised how quickly the ladies warm up to you now that you’re not shooting yourself in the foot.