Wanting to share something that you’re passionate about with the people around you isn’t an unusual thing at all. So it’s no surprise that you’d leap at the opportunity to educate a lady that you’re chatting with or seeing on the many wonders your hobby has to offer. There’s a certain way to go about it to make sure that her introduction to your interests is as painless (and fun) as possible, and to make her just as excited about it as you are.
Don’t Overwhelm Her
Just throwing her into the deep end and expecting her to learn to swim out of necessity isn’t nice. Ease her into things, especially if your hobby is very broad or confusing for newbies.
For example, if you’d like to introduce her to the world of tabletop gaming, start with a straightforward game with a minimum of rulebooks. Don’t talk her ear off about intricacies, and don’t nitpick every single mistake or miscalculated roll. An overcritical rules lawyer isn’t fun in a regular session, and definitely isn’t fun for someone who’s only here to please said rules lawyer. Don’t bring her to a session populated by people who suffer newbies badly. And ask your session buddies before you bring her, even if you think they’d be cool with her. You don’t want to be that guy who ruins everyone’s fun by dragging his girlfriend along. That kind of negative atmosphere won’t do anything for your lady’s interest in your hobby, besides.
If your hobby is very strenuous, like hiking or rock-climbing, you’re sure to already be aware that you have to start slow for someone just learning the ropes. If you’re not aware, become aware. For physical activities, keep it in the back of your mind that she may just not be able to keep up with you, even if her interest is there. If she has health problems or the strain of participating is getting really harsh on her, it’s your job to tell her that she doesn’t need to kill herself to spend time with you. If you can find a way for her to participate without getting injured, that’s great. In the hiking example, stick to easy trails around the parks, or even just walk around the neighborhood with her. Don’t try pushing her too hard. Remember that you’re trying to get her into your hobby as a way to spend time with her, not to become her personal trainer.
Offer Her the Same From You
Of course, if you keep trying to get her into your interests, you should at least offer to get into some of hers. If you find her interesting enough to want a relationship with, you’re sure to find one or two of her interests to be relevant to yours. Do it with a minimum of whining, and an open mind. You wouldn’t like it if she responded to you mentioning your hobby by rolling her eyes, so try to be civil even if you’re getting bored. Even if you just can’t muster up a passion for it, she’ll see and appreciate your efforts.