With the increased visibility of gaming in general in recent years, it seems like there are more and more people getting interested in the pastime. But you’re not looking for a girl who just plays Angry Birds on her phone from time to time, no. You’re looking for a girl who’s able to headshot alongside you in your favorite shooter, or discuss in depth the plots spanning the Metal Gear series. Gamer girls have been around since the first Atari was stocked on shelves, so anyone who calls gaming, a boy’s club is hopelessly out-of-date on their gaming history. That being said, eligible and attractive gamer girls can be highly sought after by the male gaming community. There are certain ways to set yourself apart from the slobbering masses.
Respect Her and Her Hobbies
She’s just a person with a vested interest in games, like you. Don’t treat her like some rare tropical parrot that you need to shelter from jungle predators and poachers. While gamer girls might be a little less in number than male gamers, in this generation, the numbers are just not that severely skewed any longer. She’s just a lady trying to have some fun with her preferred hobby, and probably won’t appreciate being treated with kid gloves about it. And definitely don’t assume her knowledge of gaming isn’t as in-depth as yours, or let any of your gaming buddies do likewise. It’s rude, disrespectful, and even if she doesn’t have an encyclopedic knowledge of the Mass Effect series, that doesn’t mean she doesn’t like games as much as you do. It probably just means she hasn’t played Mass Effect. Plenty of less mature male gamers treat disrespecting female gamers as a sort of sport, so your sensibleness and regard for her interests and opinions will set you miles apart from the unwashed hooting morons screaming sexist comments over their headsets. (And ban any sexist insults from your vocabulary, if you haven’t already. Telling someone they shoot like a girl lost its kick back when you turned fourteen, and tasteless comments about rape are never appropriate.)
Respect Her Choices of Genre
Bottom line, don’t force her to play games in genres she sucks at or isn’t interested in. Even if you’re dying to have a girlfriend who you can spar with in Marvel vs. Capcom, if she’s not interested in fighting games, it’s not her job to serve as your second player for whatever game you feel like playing. She’ll get bored very quickly if that’s what you seem to be using her for. Do feel free to try introducing her to your genres of choice, but do so while extending the same offer to her preferred genres. Offer to do a game exchange with her. If you’re more a shooter- and fighting-games type, and she’s the RPG- and puzzle-games type, ask her what her favorites from those genres are, and ask to borrow them. Offer your own favorite game from your preferred genre in exchange. Not only will she like that you’re trying to be interested in her favorites, you both might get a new favorite of your own.