It’s hard enough to meet women as it is, and no dude wants to hear that he’s sabotaging his own efforts. There are definite habits and mindsets that the perpetually single get stuck in that are the underlying causes of them remaining single.
The Bachelor Mindset
All of your friends are attached or married, except for you. They always tell you that they envy your freedom, your ability to do anything and anyone and not have to answer to a girlfriend or wife. Or, it might be that you hang around with a pack of bachelors yourself, and they constantly pity the man attached to a ball and chain. When one of them starts seeing a woman, he’s greeted with jokes about being whipped when he can’t make or breaks plans that you all set up.
In either scenario, you can see the problem. If you surround yourself with single dudes, you’re going to stay single. This is especially the case if they’re not respectful of your desire to start up a relationship with a woman, and especially the case if they constantly cut you down when you’re just trying to spend some quality time with your lady. Surrounding yourself with couples won’t work either. Not only will it make you feel like a third wheel, you’re also not going to find any ladies that way either. You’re just going to need to steel yourself in your desire to find someone special, and go out searching on your own.
The Not Good Enough Mindset
Fact is, if you don’t like and respect yourself, other people won’t either. If you think you’re too boring, too unattractive, too whatever, for a woman to be interested in you, even if that’s not the case, she’s going to sense that depressive attitude and lose interest. It’s not a potential girlfriend’s job to improve your self-esteem and personal issues. That’s something that you have to fix on your own.
If you think you’re too boring for a woman to be interested in talking to you, change that. Pick up some new hobbies, or start talking to women who are interested in the ones you have now. No matter how nerdy you think your hobby is, there’s some lady out there that will be happy to nerd with you about it. If you think you’re too unattractive, there are always ways for a man to clean himself up. Shower daily, wear clean clothes that fit, and look into a gym membership if you want to slim down or beef up. You think that any attempts at improving your face or physique are hopeless? While ladies do appreciate a good-looking guy, you’ll find that they’ll be perfectly willing to accept a date if you’re a funny, genuinely nice person who shares common interests with them.
If you see yourself in any of these descriptions, don’t feel like you need to be stuck there. With a little work, and a little self-inspection, you can get yourself back on the road and really start looking for a special woman to start up a relationship with.