When to Pursue, and When to Be Distant
When we say that you should let her pursue you, we don’t mean that you can just sit around and let women message you first. Most of the time, you’ll still need to be the one to message her to start the conversation. But whether you message her first or not, the key is the distance and content of your replies. Don’t dash off a response to her within seconds of receiving her message. You want your messages to her to be well thought-out and at least a paragraph or two long; same definitely goes for your initial whether conversation starter to her. After the first few back-and-forth messages, back off a little. Log off for the night, and come back in the morning. Keep this up, and she’ll always be aching for more of your company, instead of always having to be the one to tell you to go away for the night so she can go to bed.
Keep Her Personality in Mind
Getting her to pursue you is all fine and dandy with a specific kind of lady. Thing is, it doesn’t work so well with certain women. Shy women especially will probably take your distance the wrong way, and write you off as not interested in them. You can still encourage them into pursuing you with certain finesse. Be apologetic about your distance, and cite reasons like your busy workday, or a strict travel schedule. This way, she’ll always be logging in hoping for a new message from you, without worrying that you’re not interested.
On the other hand, encouraging her into pursuing you, works especially well on certain personalities. Women who are very direct, or who have strong and confident personalities, will probably be happy to pursue you with a minimum of coaxing. They might even have messaged you first to begin with. Very beautiful women who are clearly very used to men falling head over heels for them can also react surprisingly well to the method. They consider it to be a refreshing change of pace from what they’re usually subjected to by your male competition, and the fact that you seem to not be completely enraptured by their charms can be intriguing. Intriguing, or at least interesting enough to want to get to know a bit more.