What Do You Think About This Shirt?
One great way to get her chatting at the bar is by asking her opinion on your clothing choice. When first asked, most women are going to say it looks good because she doesn’t want to offend you. However, you need to make sure that you continue asking her questions to keep her talking. When she tells you that your clothing looks fine, ask her if she’s sure it doesn’t look too tight or too loud. You can ask her anything you want about your clothing as long as you’re certain she’ll answer it. After asking her two or three different follow up questions, compliment on her good fashion sense and tell her that you wished more women were willing to give their input on men’s clothing.
When you let your initial conversation be based off of something that she can give her input on, it makes it easier for the two of you to start chatting because she will feel like you are dependent on her opinion of you.
Why Are We Here?
Another great way to getting her to chat with you is to question why both of you are there. Usually women respond to this question with a laugh or by shaking her head and saying, “I don’t know.” If that happens, you can use that time to talk about other places you’d rather be and things you’d rather be doing. However, you want to make sure that it doesn’t sound like you’re complaining. Rather, you want it to sound like you have all these fun ideas and no one to do them with.
After you’ve mentioned all the things you would like to do, you should ask her what she would do. Give her the scenario that she has unlimited money and ask her what she’d do with her time. Make sure you listen carefully so that you can offer a similar alternative to something that the two of you can do right in town.
With this, you want to get her thinking and to encourage her to share her desires with you. This will make her feel more comfortable with talking to you as she’ll think you are the type of guy who can quietly listen when she has the floor. Convincing her to chat while you’re at the bar is easy as long as you are letting her talk about things that she enjoys