In this modern day and age, you can imagine how a guy who prides himself on his intelligence can stand out. To the lady seeking someone who she can have a conversation with, the guy who can boast a wide-ranging library will be head and shoulders above the dude who can barely string together a coherent message to her.
Women Want Men Who They Can Bond With
That much is obvious and true for guys as well. If her interests tend toward the intellectual or literary, you can see why presenting yourself as well-read will attract her eye. Settle in and read over her dating site profile. What kinds of books is she interested in? This will let you sharpen your focus. You can endeavor to present yourself as a kind of renaissance man as far as your literary interests, but when you’re trying to talk to someone with a specific curiosity or passion, it’s best to brush up on the topics they focus on. If most of the books on her list are in the fantasy genre, read up on the basics and look into any books commonly considered a must-read in the category. Same goes for sci-fi, romance, non-fiction, and so on.
Pretending to be More Informed than You Are
To state the obvious, it’s much easier to actually be informed than to fake it. Lots of classic literature is available for free on the internet, and with e-readers so prevalent and affordable, you can expand your own reading list without much trouble, and without having to bluff your way through conversations. Good relationships are built on being honest to each other, and it might be awkward later on when she finds out that you’re not quite as well-read as you presented yourself to be (and believe us, she will find out eventually).
Still, you’re a busy man, and even with the interest there, you’re not able to read every single fantasy/sci-fi/romance/whatever book ever written. The best way to fake having a good basis in a genre is to brush up on the basics with a quick web search. If you’re out on a date with her, a smartphone and a sneaky hand under the table is your best friend when trying to get yourself out of a potential sticky situation. Wikipedia is a good general resource for plot summaries and basic details about a given book, like author, publication date, and so on. Wikipedia can also tell you about any famous controversies or events that a book might have been involved in. You still want to stick to sites that don’t rely on user edits for information, though. You don’t want to give yourself away when an eighth-grader’s joke edit makes you say that the author of “To Kill a Mockingbird” was Seymour Butts. For classic literature, there are plenty of sites with in-depth study guides meant for frantic students. For more contemporary literature, a quick Google search will let you read over book critics’ reviews of the piece, which will let you put together your own lines. It’s best to move the conversation elsewhere as quickly as possible when it comes to something you haven’t read, lest you accidentally dig yourself too deep. And remember, if you haven’t read her favorite book, she might be just as pleased to tell you about it herself.