It Comes Off as Being Back-Handed
Sometimes complimenting a woman and having it be perceived as genuine can be more difficult than it really needs to be, especially since some of the things you consider complimentary may actually seem like an insult to her. Chances are if you’ve complimented a girl on her appearance, one or two times you may have made it seem like a back-handed comparison to someone else who looks better. Women are under so much pressure to look amazing that they can be insecure about their appearance, so next time instead of telling her that she looks amazing in her dress, tell her that SHE makes her dress look amazing. It’s a subtle difference, but one that she is sure to notice and appreciate immensely.
It Gives Her the Wrong Impression
One thing you never want to do is compliment a girl in a way that gives her the impression that you think she’s cheap, trashy, or easy. Nothing will kill her mood faster than being compared to an easy woman! It’s best to stay away from making comments that could give her the idea that you think she’s easy at all. If you think a woman is wearing too little clothing or a dress that’s too revealing, don’t comment on it unless you want to ensure that you don’t go home with her. Try to focus on something else so you do not accidentally comment on something that winds up making her feel bad about herself or even mad at you.
It’s Negative instead of Positive
This can be a tricky area to navigate, but the general idea is that it’s best to compliment a woman based entirely on her own merits and on positive aspects instead of comparing her to other women. One obvious thing is that you never want to comment on a woman’s weight, even if you are telling her how skinny she looks. This might not be a compliment to her, so it’s best to just avoid it entirely. Another thing to avoid is comparing a woman to OTHER women by saying that she looks so much better than everyone else in the club. Stick to focusing on her alone, and don’t bring other people into it.