Pro Tip: The Follow-up
It’s incredibly important that you don’t put all of your eggs in one basket when it comes to dating these women. While you might be enamored with this one particular lady, there’s absolutely no telling if she’ll work out or not. When you’re learning to date using online personals, there’s always a risk to be had, and that’s just something you’re going to have to accept when using them.
Just don’t waste your time.
Until you actually have a confirmation of a date that’s going to happen, there’s really no need to focus on one woman in particular. This is why we highly suggest that you contact different ladies at once on most dating sites, especially when you’re first figuring out how to get a date on these online personals sites in general.
When you’re trying to date multiple women, however, you do need to be incredibly organized. Once you’ve got all your ducks in a row, you’ll find it much easier to actually land dates and to coordinate them around one another. You’ll end up having a much easier time keeping everything straight, and that means before, during, and after the actual date that happened.
Just don’t seem desperate.
When you’re contacting ladies, it’s important to never seem desperate on these websites. It doesn’t matter if you’re having a dry spell that’s lasted three years–she doesn’t need to hear about that. That sort of desperation isn’t something that she’s going to find sexy, and this applies AFTER the date actually happens, too.
Once you’ve hooked up with her, you should never rush to contact her. It’s important that you wait about a day before you actually e-mail her again. Most women will think it’s pretty weird if you start texting her or e-mailing her five minutes after you’ve left the hotel room, and they might actually want to avoid you because of it.
These women want to know that you’ve been thinking about them, but they don’t want to be with a guy that’s obsessive about it. If at any point you start thinking that you’re coming on too h2, you probably are. Step back, and let her make a move for a change.
Think about what you enjoyed.
Once you’ve had the date and hooked up with her for the first time, it’s time to really reflect. This is something you should definitely do before you actually contact her, so take the time to sit down and muse on the encounter that you had with her.
Did you like the way she looked? The way she was in bed? Did you two really hit it off with your interests? This is the sort of stuff you should tuck away in your little black book and keep for future reference.
It should also all apply when you call her back, because you’ll want to have something to actually talk to her about that didn’t have anything to do with the sex (or at least, entirely).
Keeping records makes it that much easier to remember these girls.
If you’re like us, you’ll end up having dates with lots of different women on these websites. Just like we’ve said before, it’s important to keep track of who you’ve been with, and who you want to be with in the future. This guarantees that there won’t be any awkward overlap, and that you won’t end up being with ladies that you honestly never want to be with again.
It’s simple to keep entries on each and every single one of these women, and honestly, if you’re using multiple sites, it’s something that you really NEED to do. Otherwise, you’re just going to end up making mistakes in the future.
You don’t have to call her back.
While it’s important to contact her again if you liked her…if you absolutely hated the date, there’s really no reason for you to call her back. She’s probably already going to have figured out that it was no good for you, and she’s not going to be expecting that call.
If you decide not to call her back, then still make a note in your book about how you really didn’t enjoy yourself. This will make it much easier to avoid her in the future, and will prevent any cringe-worthy encounters from thereon out.
Don’t be a jerk about it.
If you didn’t like her, then just leave it at that. There’s no reason to go and slam her name on the internet, or to call her just to tell her how much you hated the evening.
Just because she wasn’t your cup of tea doesn’t mean she can’t be someone else’s. Keep that in mind, and the two of you will be able to never meet up again quite peacefully. Hopefully, though, you’ll have found someone that really works for you, and this won’t ever be an issue.